infomation exchange

       Restoration and Displacement of Information

In today's world—whether in our everyday conversations with people around us or in the content and conclusions we see in the media—if we pay close attention, we'll notice that most of it comes from a judgmental perspective. In fact, the nouns and adjectives we use in language often carry evaluative or labeling meanings. For example, something is labeled as "good," or someone is called a "bad person." But aren't such conclusions overly simplistic and narrow?

How many people, upon hearing such statements, actually pause to reflect: Who said this? Who was the first to say it? Who is defining what's good or bad? How was this definition formed? When was it said? What was the social or historical context? Who else was present? And what kind of values and judgment systems did those people hold?

To avoid the mental effort of rational thinking, many people unconsciously choose perspectives that align with their own comfort zones based on past experiences and internalized values. This is also why the truth is often so elusive. The truth is actually the full objective reality of an event, but our brains tend to process that reality in fragmented ways for the sake of convenience. And in doing so, we bypass the effort needed to reconstruct the full picture.

So what's the result? Information loss.
If we make decisions or form conclusions based on incomplete information, how can those conclusions match the original truth? They're not necessarily wrong—but they're often irrelevant.

In our daily lives, it may seem like everything is tangible and real. But people who are sensitive can often sense a lack of authenticity—this illusion is one of the reasons why.

When we respond or draw conclusions based on our own experiences, we've already moved away from objectivity. Often, we're not even aware of how subjective we are. We may even pressure others to abandon their viewpoints, believing that "the more people agree with me, the more right I must be." But in reality, no one is always right. Someone may be "right" only because their viewpoint happens to align with the context or rules of a specific time or situation.

If we observe how people communicate, we'll notice that many don't even ask "why." Instead, they casually offer unverified opinions based on personal feelings. This is a major reason why much social interaction lacks meaningful content.

Let's take a simple example:
Q: Is this dish tasty?
A: Yes, very tasty.
Q: How so?
A: It just is. It's tasty, that's all—why ask so much? 😂

At first glance, it seems like an exchange happened, but in reality, no actual information was shared.

So, what does a conversation that doesn't revolve around judgment but instead conveys real information look like? For instance:
Q: Is this dish tasty?
A: Yes. It's tomato scrambled eggs.
Q: Where were the ingredients bought?
A: Actually, they weren't bought. The tomatoes were home-grown, and the eggs came from our own chickens.
Q: Was the dish homemade?
A: Yes, by someone in the family who's very skilled at cooking. Friends often compliment their dishes.
A: What did you think of it?
Q: I really enjoyed it. I'd love to have the same kind of flavor at home, and now I know how it's made.

Here, we can see that description, not judgment, is the effective vehicle for sharing objective information through language.

So, finding someone who can calmly and richly exchange information with us may actually be a great way to reduce the frustrations of life and increase joy. These little details may be where everyday happiness resides.

It's like painting—each stroke slowly sketches the image, and only with patience and emotion can a beautiful piece emerge.

#SelfAwareness #InformationIntegrity #EffectiveCommunication